Meeting with a Dark Goddess can be overwhelming at times. Whether we are anxious because we have questions or apprehensive because it is new territory, I am going to walk you through creating a grounding talisman that also doubles as an incense holder. Many Dark Goddesses enjoy incense and are appreciative of those types of offerings. As you prepare to dive deeper with Nyx or meet her through meditation, this can help you ease into the journey.
Obsidian (Chip size)
Preheat your oven to 200 degrees Fahrenheit.
Take your polymer clay and roll it into a ball, about 3 inches in diameter. Place it onto the aluminum foil (this is so you can put it in the oven later easily).
Use your glass cup to roll it out into a circle until it is about ½ an inch thick.
Use the end of an incense stick and create a hole at the top of your talisman.
Sprinkle some of the lavender and yarrow on top and press down with your fingers. Lavender for a soothing experience, yarrow to go deeper into the experience with more ease. While you are pressing down, make sure you are connecting with the herbs.
Take your piece of cleansed and cleared obsidian and press it into the middle of your talisman.
Put the talisman in the oven for about 20 minutes.
Your Grounding Talisman is ready to be activated!
There are many ways to activate a talisman. Activation began by placing a drop of my personal oil on the obsidian. It ties me to it entirely, and then I chanted my intention:
Let me be fully grounded
Roots deep in the soil
When I am anxious or scared
Remove the worry and toil
Place a stick of incense in the hole and light it, envisioning the smoke activating it entirely.
Blessings on your journey into the night, may Nyx receive you and guide you forward exactly as you need her to!
A candle and a key,
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Coming Home to Witchcraft: Honoring the Homes We Create
A big part of coming home to witchcraft can be recognizing that we are the creatrix of the spaces in which we live, work, and play. Even if we are not the builder of our home or workspace, there are other ways in which we take on the role of creatrix: our perception, our experience, our decoration, and our actions.
Coming into this awareness can become overwhelming. This knowledge can settle into our bones. If we are the creatrix of our experiences with where we are present and where we are present can be considered a home, then:
What homes do we have?
Are we showing up or just going through the motions?
Are we having the types of experiences we yearn for?
Do we have a certain bias against some of the places and spaces we make our homes in?
Our body is our number one home of spirit. It is the first home we have. I know I have a tremendous and deeply engrained bias towards my own body because it does not fit the standard image of many things including beauty, youth, or pristine health. A part of the process of coming home to my body and honoring it is unlearning the bias. My body allows me to exist, connect, create life, and be. A part of honoring that is to practice more self-love without hard and fast rules. Ultimately, awareness and habits of creating presence in the body allow us to take up that creatrix mode on our own, in ways that speak truth to us. Before I give some ideas, here are a few things to ponder:
What are ways that we can honor the body where we are right now?
What are things that you love about your body?
How can you be comfortable in your skin today?
What does your body need today?
Ideas for creating presence and honoring the body as home:
Create a Self-Care Deck
Engage in body reflection and acceptance through journaling
Daily body scans
Weekly Ritual Bath or Shower
“I am at home in my body. I am at ease with my body’s sensations. I am at play with my body’s sensuality and at peace with my body’s natural cycles. I speak about my body with reverence. And so it is” ~ Patricia Lynn Reilly, Willendorf’s Legacy: The Sacred Body (A Girl God Anthology)
Coming home to witchcraft and especially the Dark Goddesses creates an atmosphere of evaluation and connection. The space where we work, whether it be for money or our place of witchery, demands that we remove any illusion and get clear in what we want. This, however, is not just about goals. It is about the threads that have been woven and if they feel like home. Maybe the threads need a good cleansing or maybe some need to be woven differently. Being the creatrix in this space is about nourishing growth, kindness, and compassion and it starts with us. Here are some questions to ponder:
Am I showing up fully present and ready to engage?
If yes, what are the top 3 things that motivate you?
If no, what are 3 things that are in your control that can help you shift?
Does my space feel light or heavy?
Who are the people, spaces, or things present that I enjoy?
Cleansing the Space
Aside from a great wipe down or a sage mist, there are other ways to cleanse your space and experience change in the energetic frequency. Here are my top 2 for the office or for my sacred space:
Cleansing at the office or on the go:
Use a stone in the pocket or a portal pouch with the intention of having it radiate in all directions wherever you go.
A satchel of Agrimony (especially if the workplace or coworkers are challenging) or sprinkling of Agrimony in your space.
Cleansing of Sacred Space:
Incense is my go-to, there is something about the immediate energetic shift with smoke. If that is unavailable, then there is another way featured here.
The main purpose is to become aware of what needs to go and what needs to be built and created. Sometimes cleansing makes it feel more like home, other times it opens the door for us to get creative in finding a new place to call home.
Where is Home?
It’s such a simple word, but it’s filled with complexities. It carries a different meaning for all of us..
For all of us, Earth is our home. This, is where the similarities mostly end. Each of our ideas of what home is, can differ wildly from here.
The first place we’re brought to, after we’re born, is home. If one is lucky this is where their best memories are and they can always come back here.
Home is where we lay our head at night. For some, that is a tiny home with a small foot print. For others, it may be something much bigger. It is where we come to in order to shut out the constant din of the world outside. For our ancestors, it may have been caves or groves. It was a shelter from the elements made of everything from bone to rock to wood.
For some Romany people, their traveling Vardo is home.
Each of us have places in the world that speak to our very souls. For me it’s the parks and forests surrounding me. When I step into those places, my spirit is at peace. Others may feel that peace when they are near the oceans. We are each unique in the places that feel like home.
I was born and raised in the Appalachian Mountains, in a tiny little town that is quite close to the Eastern Band of the Cherokee. There is magic in this land, but there is also sorrow. For a very long time I struggled with being a “Hillbilly”. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to understand that my ancestors are a tough lot. They survived conditions and poverty that is truly heartbreaking. These mountains, they are my home. When I stand on this land, I feel the blood of my ancestors rush through my veins. Home is in the very wind that blows upon my face.
People can be home, too. There are certain amazing people in my life that I can embrace and it is home. My children, grandchildren, friends, and my beloved. There aren’t many, but when home is a person, it can change the entire day just by seeing them.
My Witchcraft? It too is home. When I stand in my power, knowing I’m doing what is best for me and mine, there isn’t a feeling of wholeness more profound than craft the life I want. That home, within a home, within a home is the warm embrace of a thousand dreams.
So what or where is home for you?
Is it the mountains, the forests, the ocean?
Or is it something else entirely?
Let us take today and be grateful for all we have in our lives. The people that bring us joy and the places that bring us peace.
In my experience and the experiences others have shared with me, the Dark Goddess comes in a way that grabs our attention. She grabs it with a face or name or animal, one that grabs our attention at the soul level. It is a knowing, something just sparks for us, and we know we have found a thread leading us home. Home in ourselves, to our tribe, to our purpose, and to her.
I know I was simultaneously scared shitless and curiously exhilarated.
She arrives in the form that we need to connect with and many times during the beginning of our awakening. These may be moments that do not feel like new beginnings, but like death, destruction, and endings. Those dark nights of the soul, the ones that leave us breathless or screaming, she appears and guides us through our own trials by fire. It is this deep darkness that provides the most fertile soil for us to rise strongly rooted in ourselves, in our path. We are reawakened, remembering, reclaiming, and rewilding with her.
She also forces us to face the monsters we keep trapped in the basement of self or even the real ones in our lives.
She provides opportunities in the small decisions of everyday life. Think about all the small decisions that we have made, the connections and threads spiraling outward from a single choice. My first job at 15 years old led me to my first husband, 3 wild and beautiful children, and a divorce that led me to the Dark Goddess. This subsequently led me to you.
I also have learned to radically accept every decision I’ve made, and every part I’ve played (or not) to get here. In those places of the deepest dark, I know I don’t deserve the things that have hurt, betrayed, and invalidated me or cracked and shattered the very essence of my being, but I accept that they happened. Coming home to the Dark Goddess is the baseline, it is the beginning of the rest of a life on our own terms. These are the choices she empowers us with.
Coming home to witchcraft feels like an act of rebellion or of defiance. In essence, it is the ultimate act of defiance in the face of a system that pits people against each other, thrives under structures of powerful or ‘powerless’, and where wisdom is only valued if it can be scientifically measured by those in the ‘powerful’ category. Witchcraft becomes a conduit through which we become our own Breaker of Bindings, Force of the Fierce, Reclaimer, and Completely Untamed.
Let Me Explain
The very act of becoming requires that we remove the shackles or bindings of who we were told to be. We must do it ourselves. It is a battle cry of living from the soul truth, to unlearn the limits placed upon us, being soul or heart driven. Perhaps you have found yourself here, among an ever-rising Force of the Fierce tribe that is learning together.
We are creating a collective.
These are spaces of being that allow us to genuinely connect with everyone exactly as we are and reclaim our sovereign right to exist without the guilt, the shame, or the fear. In fact, we become able to experience a full range of emotions and connect to our magic in a way that promotes a wild curiosity to emerge. This is the place where we come face to face with the Dark Goddess, we find her staring back at us in the mirror.
Breaker of Bindings Ritual Bath
This is a ritual with the purpose of calling forth and illuminating that which we must retrieve from within to break our own bindings. This could be those truths we were told to hide at a young age. It could be our soul sparks that have been diminished through periods of trauma, abuse, or invalidation. It could be retrieving our own voice after only hearing the voice of others for so long. The pieces of us that need retrieving are keys that allow us to break the bindings that have kept us playing small or living inauthentically. This ritual will call the pieces upward from the darkest depths where they have been hidden. Only you know these pieces and only you can do this work.
Moonstone is a beautiful stone that, as its name suggests, pulls in lunar energy. This stone can signify new beginnings, enhance our inner intuition and strength, while simultaneously reflecting the individual back to themselves.
“…it allows one to absorb that which is needed from the universal energies, not necessarily, however, furthering that which is wanted.” ~ A. Melody, Love is in The Earth
Moonstone is a useful tool to assist in our journey. We are going to create Moonstone-infused water for a Ritual Bath that will illuminate what we must retrieve for our own sovereign journey. While this stone can be put into water, I do not recommend it as there are other ways to infuse water with a stone’s energy.
Moonstone Water Directions:
Place the cleansed and blessed stone into a glass jar and seal with the lid.
Take the bowl and place the living water in it.
Take the glass jar and place it into the bowl so the water rises, surrounding the glass jar that safely holds the stone.
Place outside or on a ledge during the full moon to capture the lunar energy.
The time spent capturing the lunar energies in both the stone and the water, will allow the Moonstone Water to reach a conflux of potential once we activate it.
Moonstone Water Activation
After the full moon, we want to merge the energies together and activate for our ritual bath. Unseal the lid on the glass jar. Visualize the energy from the stone coming up out of the glass jar and flowing down the sides into the water. You may use both hands to help guide the energy from the top of the glass jar, down the sides, and into the water (think of how one can use their hands to guide sacred smoke).
Speak these words:
Lumino, Lumen, of the Liminal Realm
Confluence, a Mirror, Truth rises to the helm
The Moonstone Water is now activated. Remove the glass jar from the bowl and set to the side. Your Moonstone will need to be recharged before using again. You are left with the bowl of activated water.
The Complete Ritual with Audio Journey can be found here.
Homecoming: Dark Goddesses Collective
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Nyx, daughter of Khaos, the Primordial one, wrapped in a cloak of stars. She who illuminates deep within the darkness and holds the mirror that shows us who we are. Our hopes, our fears, the very fabric from the cosmos that created each of us. Feared by Gods and men alike, for she is truth in its purest form.
My Work with Nyx
I have sat for many days, pondering. Even I am not immune to things such as self-doubt and impostor syndrome. It is within the moon’s gaze that I have begun to understand that there is still much work to do. So with her I have sat, listening, unraveling, discovering.
It is within this process of discovery that I have had reflected back at me the parts within myself that I really rather don’t like. Perfectionism, procrastination, doubt, that I am diving deep to root out the source and banish it from my life. This time, for good.
Creating the life we are meant to live
There are lessons within all we do and it is through her wisdom that I am learning how to let go. You will shed tears, so many tears. Yet water is cleansing catharsis. There are people who have walked out of my life that I have been grieving for far too long. The time has come to step past that hurt. It is not me that is broken.
Nyx’s stars have shined upon me, always. When one such as she places you in her gaze, it can be overwhelming at first. You want to “live up to” some sort of extraordinary standard that takes root in your mind. While our Divines expect us to live up to our potential, they don’t expect us to just know how to do that at a moment’s notice.
Meeting her in her domain
Working with Nyx is a process and one worthy of doing well, not necessarily quickly. I urge you to stand beneath the crescent moon, the starry sky, and even the sky filled with inky blackness. Hold a moonstone in your hand and just…listen. Breathe and listen. Lose yourself in the twinkling of the stars of her cloak. Her voice is within the shadows and upon the wind. Think about what it is saying to you. The path toward creating a life worthy of you and all you have to offer. Once you know the way, move forward and don’t look back.
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At Dark Goddesses Collective we are on a journey of calling in Nyx and beginning our relationship with her. We want to gather her wisdom and understand her mysteries meant for us. Many of our Dark Goddesses have an association with specific animals, those that present an energy or symbolism so deep that we must learn the language of symbols to begin to grasp the deeper meaning. Even then, our own research and perceptions can lead us away from our ability to discern the wisdom meant for us. We encourage you to begin your journey to finding Owl and the wisdom that awaits.
I have called this year my year of the Owl and the Witch. I have been working with Owl for almost exactly one year and it makes perfect sense to conclude with a journey that awakened me deeply to the wisdom that Owl guards with such ferocity. There are steps for transcendence and transformation, as the mystical symbolism of Owl implies. To build a personal gnosis of Nyx’s Great Owl, it will come to teach us how to see and trust in the darkness we navigate.
Learning to See
Owl is a guardian of Nyx’s wisdom for those unable to clearly see their path forward towards her. This sight relates to our clarity, awareness, and trust in our ability to “see” what must be seen. Nyx, in all her glittering glory, can take us to places that must be faced, but Owl comes first. As the messenger that can traverse those liminal spaces, Owl guards us and the wisdom of Nyx simultaneously. Becoming one of our greatest companions, Owl will help us with our awareness, clarity, and determination as we gather the wisdom meant for us on our journey into her realms of darkness and begin to shine a light on what requires it.
On my own journey to Nyx, I was wandering through a thick forest. I was looking for the opening where I knew I would find Owl and the messages meant for me. I could barely see, it was so dark this time. It felt like I was going in circles, I was touching the trunks of trees as I passed, recognizing the patterns in the Birch bark as a tree I had already passed. I stop. I breathe deeply. I close my eyes and put my palms out before I feel the message enter my mind “there you go, use your actual sight from within”. Upon opening my eyes, the largest owl was gliding silently down in front of me to prepare me for a flight among the stars.
See In the Dark Potion
I crafted this potion to assist in getting into the space of our Witch’s sight without the anxiety, fear of the unseen, or resistance that many of us face about the unknown from time to time. All of the ingredients are “pinches” of dried herb (I measure until my heart, or my ancestors, scream stop on most potions).
Mix all ingredients and place in a tea ball or teacup with strainer. Pour 6 oz boiling water over the mix and cover for 7 minutes. Remove tea ball or strainer and place to the side (I let this dry and use it as an incense later!). Add a little honey to the potion and find a quiet place to enjoy your potion, either consumed or through breathing the vapors (especially for those concerned about allergies).
Note: This potion that almost gets me into the calm awareness for the journey without breathwork. If by chance your messages are not clear, they will be during your liminal journeys into the dreamscape over the next few days.
Trusting the Darkness
Owl is of and within the darkness, as is Nyx. As a messenger Bird, and a mysteriously powerful companion to Witches, the Owl teaches us how to trust in our own journey through the dark. This trust leads us to the wisdom of the darkness, to Nyx, she of the deepest dark above and below, transforming us from fearful to something sacred: Fearsome. A formidable Witch that owns the power of sight, flight, and trusts the individual path required on this journey to wholeness.
May your Owl companion bring you closer to your sight and flight,
November is meant for embracing the darkness that looms heavy in the sky as we continue to see the trees shapeshift into bare bones. We can beckon the wisdom of darkness, of Nyx, to us through the Black Sacred Candle. This candle serves as the beacon that will invite her into our spaces to impart the medicine of the darkness she brings.
Nyx, the primordial personification of night who draws the blanket over the sky, is mother to sleep and death. It should not be a surprise that poppy speaks of this same energy, and we will use Poppy seeds as a part of our Beacon Blend to Nyx. We add Yarrow to ease us into the healing wisdom of Nyx and the amazing cleansing, banishing, protecting, and world-walking trio that are Sage, Mugwort, and Myrrh. As an addition, we can use Moonstone over the candle and botanicals to reflect the energy of this beacon to take it up a level.
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A Calling to Nyx
When sinking deep into the energy of creating this beacon, Nyx made it clear to me that the flame needed a specific enchantment upon the first lighting. I sat with this for a day or so and she gave me the words immediately after waking up (still half asleep to be honest!). You can listen to it below!
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As the northern hemisphere continues to lengthen its time in darkness, in nighttime, we look to welcome Nyx at Dark Goddesses Collective for November.
Here at Dark Goddesses Collective, part of our work is the reclamation of the Goddesses in all forms. To speak their stories and our own, recognizing a growing power through which we can all foster change in our lives and communities. We are excited that you have found us!
We are equally excited to announce that our private network is coming along beautifully. Its creation will be for those who are interested in doing the deeper, life-changing, intuitive work of reclaiming their power with Dark Goddesses and a tribe committed to fostering change in their communities.
The Month of November
Our Theme: Coming Home to Witchcraft and Dark Goddesses
This month we are discussing the ways witchcraft feels like a homecoming, how the threads of the Dark Goddesses find us in our witchery, and how it presents itself as a mirror into our soul.
Our Goddess: Nyx
A primordial Goddess of Night and darkness, from the darkness where all of creation is formed and returned to. Connecting with Nyx is to connect deeply within our subconscious where our own divinity may lay in wait, our own spark of creation, beyond “other” and beyond the “dark night of the soul”.