Rituals

A Ritual of Self-Love

When it comes to working with Lilith, she can be…demanding. Even this is putting it lightly. This is the only warning you will get ahead of this ritual.

I knew going into this month she was going to push me past my comfort zone. Which is saying something. Very little, after 3 decades a Witch, makes me squirm.

Working the ritual. What you need:

Your BSC for the month
Lilith incense we created for the BSC
Our Mantra to Lilith found on the DGC FB page
A bath oil/tea/flowers that makes you feel sensual and sexy. More about that below if you’re stuck for what to use
At least 2 candles (one red, one black. Though 2 of each is better)
Finely ground Dragon’s Blood Resin (optional)
Some music
An hour of time just for you

The process:

To do this ritual, which is really one of self-love, you need an hour of alone time. I know it can seem almost impossible, given commitments to kids, husbands/wives/partners, pets, household, and the list goes on. We can make excuses for why we can’t do these things. Yet, to fully claim our sovereignty, we must make sacrifices. If you have to do this at midnight, then do so.

Start by lighting your BSC to Lilith. If you have a bit of Dragon’s Blood Resin, make a paste from it using a drop of moon blessed water.

Light a bit of incense from our monthly blend. Dip your finger in your Resin paste and draw a line from your forehead down to the tip of your nose. Continue on from the lower lip to chin.

Use the Mantra, written by Kaycee. Repeat it as many times as necessary until your inhibitions fade. This ritual is about connecting with your body and what she needs.

If you have been seated to this point, stand. Put on a song or two that makes you feel sensual, desirable to yourself. The only rule for this ritual is that it is about you & Lilith, in her guise of the Whore of Babylon. Guess what? That isn’t something to make you feel bad, negative, ashamed or embarrassed. Those feelings are the patriarchy speaking. Push through it.

Dance to the music. Sway your hips. Just fucking move. Find that rhythm in that space.

If you are able to, undress. Otherwise, extinguish your BSC and move into your bathing sanctuary to do so. Place your candles either on the bathroom counter and light them. Or if you are able, at the 4 corners of your bath tub. Adjust accordingly if you only have a shower or can’t get into the tub.

As you fill the tub, add the bath oil/tea/flowers to the water. I generally start with a base oil and add any of the following:
Vanilla, Jasmine, Rose, Hibiscus, Violet
Add them all if you’d like. Though I can’t guarantee what it will smell like in the end.

If you are able to, while the water is filling, lower the lights. I love bathing in almost complete darkness with a small string of LED lights for ambiance (and so I don’t kill myself when I step out).

If you were unable to completely undress before, do so now. From this moment, it is you, only you, and the wisdom of Lilith. Allow your mind to wander. Using your hands to push the water up over your body. Your hands connecting with skin.

What brings pleasure to you?
How does it feel when you touch there?
What about with more pressure? Less?
Find the spaces between that make your toes curl.
That has you vocalizing without conscious thought. It just happens.

As you explore her (meaning yourself), find the places where you are completely lost. Thought doesn’t come. It’s just you & the embodiment of pleasure, nothing more. Those noises? You know the ones. They are perfectly normal. Do not try to silence them.

Stay in that place for as long as you need to. Don’t rush yourself. Also know if it brings you pleasure, there is NOTHING wrong with it.

This is about a trifecta of knowing yourself, your pleasure, and beginning to learn exactly what you need. This is how we find that space I call Divine Bliss. If you’ve never experienced a true orgasm, true release, you’re in for a surprise.

It is in being open and honest with ourselves that we find this place that I can hardly describe. But it has, more than once, had me in a space of wave after wave for hours. Yes, it IS possible. Not every time, because none of us would ever leave there.

Once you feel that you are satiated, emerge from your sacred time of self. Having a lotion, body oil, etc. that helps you feel that self-love can make a huge difference here. If it IS bedtime, a bit of lavender & vanilla is a beautiful combination to use. Make sure to wash the resin from your face, as well.

A brand new pair of Pjs, or your favorite ones, clean sheets, and that relaxed place will make for the best sleep of your life. Blow out your candles before heading to the bedroom, please.

Working through what you’ve learned.

Having a dream journal, to record anything that sticks out in your dreams will help with processing. Take a bit of time over the next several days to sit with your experience.

Next, comes an incredibly important part to this whole process. Communication. We often keep our wants and desires to ourselves. Letting our partners “take the lead”. We aren’t doing that anymore, at least, not all the time.

Being a sovereign being is about claiming those things that are ours. The things we want in our lives. You can keep your discoveries to yourself if that’s what you choose to do. However, sharing what you’ve learned about yourself can be an act of intimacy, too.

Lilith is going to nudge you forward. She is going to keep reminding you that your pleasure is just as important as your partners. I know women who have faked it every single time. Do you know what takes less effort? Switching off the brain and letting go. Go claim what is rightfully yours, Witch!

Darkest Blessings,
Ivy

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Soothe the Dragon Bath Tea

Soothe the Dragon Bath Tea

We have done a lot of work with Tiamat this month and, no doubt, there have been moments that have felt overwhelming. How many times have we told ourselves that we need to be practicing selfcare? Do you know what selfcare looks like in times like these? Where you are so overwhelmed? Where the Divine has messages that you must hear right this second?

What if I told you that it’s almost as simple as “Get in the tub”? It is, but with a twist.

Photo by Hanna Postova @ Unsplash

I created this blend as I was working on a raffle prize for a local event happening in June. There are few measurements aside from the ancestors telling me when to stop. It ended up creating an entire quart jar, which I will use going forward. The items you need, you probably already have in your Apothecary.

What you need:

Chamomile
Rose Petals
Yarrow
Lavender
Salt (Epsom, Himalayan or Sea Salt works best. Use what you have.)
Mugwort
Drawstring teabags or Tulle bags to contain the plant material and make cleanup easy
A large bowl

I sat down with my herbs, bowl and bags and set out to work.

Add as little or as much as you feel called to add. The Mugwort I would go light on, because it can bring about visions. Visions while in water can be a bit tricky.

I added my herbs in the order above then mixed them with clean, dry hands. The colors and textures were just lovely to the touch. I use a stainless steel bowl, as it’s easily cleaned.

Photo by Ivy Laine

Aren’t those colors just gorgeous?

Once I felt it was mixed enough by closing my eyes and just being present, I got my bags and set to work filling them. A few teaspoons is all you need. You can do this ahead of time and bag up the entire bowl into your bags if you like. I would just caution that they need to go into an airtight container of some sort.

Once you’re done, they’ll look something like this, depending on the bags you’re using.

Photo by Ivy Laine

How to use your Soothe the Dragon Bath Tea:

When you wish to soothe the dragon, hang one of these so the water runs over the bag as you fill the tub. Then, luxuriate in the water for as long as you need. Once you’re done, you can either toss the entire bag, or wait for it to dry and dump the used herbs and reuse the bag.

It really is an incredible way to calm the mind. Let me know your experiences with crafting the tea and how it helps you to recenter and calm the storm that rages from time to time.

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Darkest Blessings,
Ivy

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Cerridwen: An Anthology

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Ivy – A Guided Journey

As we ready ourselves to meet the Great Goddess Cerridwen, prepare a vessel of water, our herbs for the month and anything else you feel drawn to include. Any vessel will work, a black bowl. Cauldron, or even climbing into the bath.

Take a few moments to connect with the cauldron energy. Within it are the powers of life, death, rebirth, and prophecy. For some of you, it may be a new path to explore.

Once you have made that connection, we will begin. The audio journey is below. If prophecy is your desire, a divination or Mugwort tea is perfect for the work ahead.

More on Cerridwen

If you haven’t set up an altar for her yet, you can find my article here. Our January work with her can all be found at this link.

We are forever grateful to you for walking this journey with us. So much more is coming in 2022 so stay tuned!

Darkest Blessings,
Ivy

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