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Nasty Woman, Anthology to Lilith

Nasty Woman: Anthology to Lilith

Immersed in a tub of water, filled with the rich oils and herbs chosen for my ritual of self-love, I heard her. Lilith, a voice rich and raspy, telling me this:

In the garden that is your life, the serpent offers the knowledge from which you can never unknow. You cannot play ignorant. Nor can you remain chained to the narrative or structure where the feminine is defined by the masculine. Your purpose, your pleasure, your passion, and your magic are written in blood that is your own. Take the apple. Be the nasty woman.

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It is the same message I believe she gave to Eve, but like Eve, many of us can be confused on what to do with the knowledge once the rose-colored glasses are removed. It is easier to continue the current path. It is easier to not make waves. It is easier to feign subservience and work our magic behind the scenes. I am going to eat the whole apple though, let my own serpent rise, part the Red Sea that rebirthed me, and align with those ready to make waves with me. It was never an option when handed me the apple. Our Garden deserves more.

Correspondences

Number1
ElementAll of them have a place, she is of all of them
Planet/AstrologyLilith Asteroid (1811), Black Moon Lilith, Dark Moon Lilith, and Stellar Lilith (aka: Algol, The Demon’s Eye, from Talmud)
DayMonday
AnimalSerpent, Screech Owl
StoneBlack, Orange, or Red stones (Red Jasper, Obsidian, Carnelian)
PlantsMugwort, Dragon’s Blood
WorldMiddle World, Underworld
ColorsRed, black

The Whore of Babylon

The Whore of Babylon is an amazing construct, the one who can take the blame for being in her power of creation through her own sacred sexuality, sensuality, and eroticism. Historically, indiscretions were blamed on the likes of Lilith or The Whore of Babylon (Ishtar/Innana who are also tied to or conflated with Lilith), the scapegoat for their own ‘sins’ or deviant natures. Deborah Grenn-Scott, in Lilith’s Fire: Reclaiming our Sacred Lifeforce (2000) had an amazing take on “sin” as an “insidious social construct” that uses a variety of techniques related to guilt and shame. Perhaps this is why the narrative to demonize women became so powerful as a mechanism to offload shame and guilt? It most certainly became an acceptable action in society instead of accountability.

Lust

In the Thoth deck, the Whore of Babylon is featured on card 11 created by Lady Frieda Harris. This card is titled Lust but is also the card known as Strength within other decks. I encourage everyone to research and sit with this card (although I must be transparent in my total distaste for Crowley, the lesson and underlying education is worth it). Is it about power? Yes. Is it about love? Yes. Maybe not in the sense of intimate love, but yes that too. And what else do we know that is also about power and love? Creation, that of Eros. We all hold Eros, but we have been shamed and guilted into disconnecting from it unless the narrative fits the expectation of society and the view of good or right of those in power.

The Holy Grail that is held by The Whore of Babylon in this card is not a confession and proof of her transgressions as some would love us to believe.

It is her reclamation of the power that she holds rightly, justly, and without shame (and of course that powerful narrative would leave the church and society clutching their pearls to know that the power, domination, and oppression tactics are slowly being deconstructed by none other than the Dark Goddesses themselves).

Our Month with Lilith, or, What she taught us about ourselves

Much of what we did this month allowed us to step into our Sovereignty in big ways. I sat with sacred rage, deep sorrow at the oppression that so many are turning a blind eye to. On the other side of that though, I sat with my own needs and desires. We have collectively looked at our sacred sexuality and hopefully learned about ourselves in monumental ways.

Just because our Lilith focus month is over does not mean you shouldn’t revisit those moments again and again. Just as the seasons change, so too, do we. What is true of me today, in where I am with what I need, may change again tomorrow, or in a week.

We as humans, and as women, grow and adapt on a nearly constant basis. Being able to recognize that is a huge leap forward in our understanding of self.

Lilith’s persistence in the wisdom she brings can be intense. When she brings it, don’t ignore it. Her intensity will only ramp up if you do so. She is the original woman and she will take you to task if she feels you are not acting in your own self interest.

We helped you to open that door to change. It is up to you if or when you step through it. What we provide is the tools. Only as an individual can you decide to use them to heal yourself. You are all strong, sovereign, strategic. Each of you possesses the ability to discern who belongs in your life and who doesn’t. If they bring you stress, is it worth it to keep trying to mold yourself to their expectations?

I have learned…it is not. We deserve happiness, joy, and to be fulfilled in every facet of our lives.

A Candle & A Key with Darkest Blessings,
Kaycee & Ivy

All of our work with Lilith can be found here

Dark Goddesses Collective is an upcoming private community of sovereigns launching soon! You can find us on Facebook and Instagram!

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A Ritual of Self-Love

When it comes to working with Lilith, she can be…demanding. Even this is putting it lightly. This is the only warning you will get ahead of this ritual.

I knew going into this month she was going to push me past my comfort zone. Which is saying something. Very little, after 3 decades a Witch, makes me squirm.

Working the ritual. What you need:

Your BSC for the month
Lilith incense we created for the BSC
Our Mantra to Lilith found on the DGC FB page
A bath oil/tea/flowers that makes you feel sensual and sexy. More about that below if you’re stuck for what to use
At least 2 candles (one red, one black. Though 2 of each is better)
Finely ground Dragon’s Blood Resin (optional)
Some music
An hour of time just for you

The process:

To do this ritual, which is really one of self-love, you need an hour of alone time. I know it can seem almost impossible, given commitments to kids, husbands/wives/partners, pets, household, and the list goes on. We can make excuses for why we can’t do these things. Yet, to fully claim our sovereignty, we must make sacrifices. If you have to do this at midnight, then do so.

Start by lighting your BSC to Lilith. If you have a bit of Dragon’s Blood Resin, make a paste from it using a drop of moon blessed water.

Light a bit of incense from our monthly blend. Dip your finger in your Resin paste and draw a line from your forehead down to the tip of your nose. Continue on from the lower lip to chin.

Use the Mantra, written by Kaycee. Repeat it as many times as necessary until your inhibitions fade. This ritual is about connecting with your body and what she needs.

If you have been seated to this point, stand. Put on a song or two that makes you feel sensual, desirable to yourself. The only rule for this ritual is that it is about you & Lilith, in her guise of the Whore of Babylon. Guess what? That isn’t something to make you feel bad, negative, ashamed or embarrassed. Those feelings are the patriarchy speaking. Push through it.

Dance to the music. Sway your hips. Just fucking move. Find that rhythm in that space.

If you are able to, undress. Otherwise, extinguish your BSC and move into your bathing sanctuary to do so. Place your candles either on the bathroom counter and light them. Or if you are able, at the 4 corners of your bath tub. Adjust accordingly if you only have a shower or can’t get into the tub.

As you fill the tub, add the bath oil/tea/flowers to the water. I generally start with a base oil and add any of the following:
Vanilla, Jasmine, Rose, Hibiscus, Violet
Add them all if you’d like. Though I can’t guarantee what it will smell like in the end.

If you are able to, while the water is filling, lower the lights. I love bathing in almost complete darkness with a small string of LED lights for ambiance (and so I don’t kill myself when I step out).

If you were unable to completely undress before, do so now. From this moment, it is you, only you, and the wisdom of Lilith. Allow your mind to wander. Using your hands to push the water up over your body. Your hands connecting with skin.

What brings pleasure to you?
How does it feel when you touch there?
What about with more pressure? Less?
Find the spaces between that make your toes curl.
That has you vocalizing without conscious thought. It just happens.

As you explore her (meaning yourself), find the places where you are completely lost. Thought doesn’t come. It’s just you & the embodiment of pleasure, nothing more. Those noises? You know the ones. They are perfectly normal. Do not try to silence them.

Stay in that place for as long as you need to. Don’t rush yourself. Also know if it brings you pleasure, there is NOTHING wrong with it.

This is about a trifecta of knowing yourself, your pleasure, and beginning to learn exactly what you need. This is how we find that space I call Divine Bliss. If you’ve never experienced a true orgasm, true release, you’re in for a surprise.

It is in being open and honest with ourselves that we find this place that I can hardly describe. But it has, more than once, had me in a space of wave after wave for hours. Yes, it IS possible. Not every time, because none of us would ever leave there.

Once you feel that you are satiated, emerge from your sacred time of self. Having a lotion, body oil, etc. that helps you feel that self-love can make a huge difference here. If it IS bedtime, a bit of lavender & vanilla is a beautiful combination to use. Make sure to wash the resin from your face, as well.

A brand new pair of Pjs, or your favorite ones, clean sheets, and that relaxed place will make for the best sleep of your life. Blow out your candles before heading to the bedroom, please.

Working through what you’ve learned.

Having a dream journal, to record anything that sticks out in your dreams will help with processing. Take a bit of time over the next several days to sit with your experience.

Next, comes an incredibly important part to this whole process. Communication. We often keep our wants and desires to ourselves. Letting our partners “take the lead”. We aren’t doing that anymore, at least, not all the time.

Being a sovereign being is about claiming those things that are ours. The things we want in our lives. You can keep your discoveries to yourself if that’s what you choose to do. However, sharing what you’ve learned about yourself can be an act of intimacy, too.

Lilith is going to nudge you forward. She is going to keep reminding you that your pleasure is just as important as your partners. I know women who have faked it every single time. Do you know what takes less effort? Switching off the brain and letting go. Go claim what is rightfully yours, Witch!

Darkest Blessings,
Ivy

Want to learn more about what is going on with Dark Goddesses Collective?

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Our private network will be launching soon! Its creation will be for those who are interested in doing the deeper, life-changing, intuitive work of reclaiming their power with Dark Goddesses and a tribe committed to fostering change in their communities. Stay tuned for more info!

Sigil for connecting with and working with Lilith

Sigil for Lilith

Every time I work with a Goddess to craft a sigil, I never know what’s going to come of it. I tend to have a vague idea of what I wish to do. It is they who guide the process though. Lilith is no different. She has a lot to say and we so much work to do!

Image by J Key from Pixabay

The Sigil

I have spent some time over the last several days connecting with Lilith. Each time I would attempt to pull that sigil from the aether. Each time she told me, “Not yet”. I knew that in due time, it would come. There is a web of understanding that we must weave before we’re shown the way. There are pieces and parts that swirl in the dream world that eventually come together.

In trancework this morning, it came. A testament to the knowledge we must not rush the process. While it is “simple” it really isn’t. Each of us will see something different. As it is meant to be. Use this sigil to connect with her. To strengthen your work. Everything we are doing this month is a piece of a puzzle. Which you will see soon!

Lilith Sigil created by Divine Guidance to the author

All of these pieces will come together in a beautiful working toward our body Sovereignty. She has awakened me fully. I am ready for what is to come. For the work that has come thus far for July, you can find it here.

Darkest Blessings,
Ivy

Featured Image Image by Ruth Archer from Pixabay

Dark Goddesses Collective is an upcoming community of Sovereigns being built on a private network to do the deeper work.  You can also find us at Facebook.

Want to see us in person? We are honored, inspired, and full of gratitude in announcing the acceptance of our workshops at Mystic South this year!

Lilith, Whore of Babylon, or Beacon of sovereignty?

Lilith – Whore of Babylon or Beacon of Sovereignty?

Here at Dark Goddesses Collective, we believe everything is divine timing. Sometimes, a Goddess seeks to be featured in a given month and we just roll with it. The reasons become clear as the months move along. We set our monthly Goddess/theme in December and, while some months don’t go to plan, others do. Which brings us to July and what June wrought upon us.

Chaos. Women’s reproductive rights and body sovereignty is being decimated over here in the states. You may be feeling rage, hopelessness, fear and each of those is incredibly valid. Feel them in their entirety, then stand up and use them to fight back. This month, we are going to stand boldly in our sovereignty and all that entails.

They will tell you such nonsense as, “Lilith is a demon. Lilith is the mother of demons. Lilith defied Adam.” She may be and she may have, but does it matter? What she really was, was the first to refuse to upset the natural order of things. She was sovereign. Her refusal to bow to the patriarchy is what we all must draw upon. They have taken her story, they have defiled it and WE are taking it back.

Lilith was originally from Sumeria. Like many of the Goddesses we have or will touch upon. She is the Rebel, a Seductress, a Goddess of Sacred Sex, she is our wild feminine and brings the wind and storms. Do you see a common theme here? Of Serpents & Storms being the parents company of DGC and RAW is no accident.

So what will this month bring you, the Wild Women and Witches? Are you ready to take back control of your own life, your own pleasure, and your own sexuality? That’s what we’re doing. Are you ready to fight for your sovereignty in a world that wishes to relegate you back to being submissive? We’ve got you covered.

Scheduled for the Month of July

Intro
Incense Blend
Sigil
Black Sacred Candle
Mantra
Body Sovereign
Ritual with Lilith
Fanning Flames of Passion
Anthology

In addition, if you’re on the DGC FB page, we will be at Mystic South in Atlanta and will be posting pictures and tales thereof great adventure!

Did you sign up to be “One of the Firsts’? You should probably go check your inbox!

Want to see us in person? We are honored, inspired, and full of gratitude in announcing the acceptance of our workshops at Mystic South this year!

Darkest Blessings & A Candle & A Key
Ivy & Kaycee