Nasty Woman: Anthology to Lilith
Immersed in a tub of water, filled with the rich oils and herbs chosen for my ritual of self-love, I heard her. Lilith, a voice rich and raspy, telling me this:
In the garden that is your life, the serpent offers the knowledge from which you can never unknow. You cannot play ignorant. Nor can you remain chained to the narrative or structure where the feminine is defined by the masculine. Your purpose, your pleasure, your passion, and your magic are written in blood that is your own. Take the apple. Be the nasty woman.
It is the same message I believe she gave to Eve, but like Eve, many of us can be confused on what to do with the knowledge once the rose-colored glasses are removed. It is easier to continue the current path. It is easier to not make waves. It is easier to feign subservience and work our magic behind the scenes. I am going to eat the whole apple though, let my own serpent rise, part the Red Sea that rebirthed me, and align with those ready to make waves with me. It was never an option when handed me the apple. Our Garden deserves more.
|Element||All of them have a place, she is of all of them|
|Planet/Astrology||Lilith Asteroid (1811), Black Moon Lilith, Dark Moon Lilith, and Stellar Lilith (aka: Algol, The Demon’s Eye, from Talmud)|
|Animal||Serpent, Screech Owl|
|Stone||Black, Orange, or Red stones (Red Jasper, Obsidian, Carnelian)|
|Plants||Mugwort, Dragon’s Blood|
|World||Middle World, Underworld|
The Whore of Babylon
The Whore of Babylon is an amazing construct, the one who can take the blame for being in her power of creation through her own sacred sexuality, sensuality, and eroticism. Historically, indiscretions were blamed on the likes of Lilith or The Whore of Babylon (Ishtar/Innana who are also tied to or conflated with Lilith), the scapegoat for their own ‘sins’ or deviant natures. Deborah Grenn-Scott, in Lilith’s Fire: Reclaiming our Sacred Lifeforce (2000) had an amazing take on “sin” as an “insidious social construct” that uses a variety of techniques related to guilt and shame. Perhaps this is why the narrative to demonize women became so powerful as a mechanism to offload shame and guilt? It most certainly became an acceptable action in society instead of accountability.
In the Thoth deck, the Whore of Babylon is featured on card 11 created by Lady Frieda Harris. This card is titled Lust but is also the card known as Strength within other decks. I encourage everyone to research and sit with this card (although I must be transparent in my total distaste for Crowley, the lesson and underlying education is worth it). Is it about power? Yes. Is it about love? Yes. Maybe not in the sense of intimate love, but yes that too. And what else do we know that is also about power and love? Creation, that of Eros. We all hold Eros, but we have been shamed and guilted into disconnecting from it unless the narrative fits the expectation of society and the view of good or right of those in power.
The Holy Grail that is held by The Whore of Babylon in this card is not a confession and proof of her transgressions as some would love us to believe.
It is her reclamation of the power that she holds rightly, justly, and without shame (and of course that powerful narrative would leave the church and society clutching their pearls to know that the power, domination, and oppression tactics are slowly being deconstructed by none other than the Dark Goddesses themselves).
Our Month with Lilith, or, What she taught us about ourselves
Much of what we did this month allowed us to step into our Sovereignty in big ways. I sat with sacred rage, deep sorrow at the oppression that so many are turning a blind eye to. On the other side of that though, I sat with my own needs and desires. We have collectively looked at our sacred sexuality and hopefully learned about ourselves in monumental ways.
Just because our Lilith focus month is over does not mean you shouldn’t revisit those moments again and again. Just as the seasons change, so too, do we. What is true of me today, in where I am with what I need, may change again tomorrow, or in a week.
We as humans, and as women, grow and adapt on a nearly constant basis. Being able to recognize that is a huge leap forward in our understanding of self.
Lilith’s persistence in the wisdom she brings can be intense. When she brings it, don’t ignore it. Her intensity will only ramp up if you do so. She is the original woman and she will take you to task if she feels you are not acting in your own self interest.
We helped you to open that door to change. It is up to you if or when you step through it. What we provide is the tools. Only as an individual can you decide to use them to heal yourself. You are all strong, sovereign, strategic. Each of you possesses the ability to discern who belongs in your life and who doesn’t. If they bring you stress, is it worth it to keep trying to mold yourself to their expectations?
I have learned…it is not. We deserve happiness, joy, and to be fulfilled in every facet of our lives.
A Candle & A Key with Darkest Blessings,
Kaycee & Ivy
All of our work with Lilith can be found here
We are also collaborating with The Lunar Hearth Cauldron and will be chatting it up during the Lammas Luncheon! You don’t want to miss even ONE moment of all the magic happening there with Cissy! If you haven’t signed up yet go do it!